I empower individuals and organizations to come alive by creating and fulfilling on their vision for the future.
lying to my face!!
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Recently, I had an employee lying directly to my face!! At first I was a little confused why something didn't match up, but as I dug into it, I realized someone lied directly to my face. How could this be? How should I react? In that moment I realized I had a very clear choice. A choice that I had bene preparing for years. What I had been preparing for what how to react in situations that call for me to show up as a leader, a role model and not sink into the obvious absolutely justified reactions that any normal person would do. You can scream. You can shout. You can even reasonably make comments and undermine them. But when you humiliate, demean someone else, you are simultaneously cheapening yourself as a leader. You are bringing yourself down. The hardest part is honestly knowing how to do in a moments notice to eloquently and in a sophisticated fashion chart the course forward. By the way, did I mention the rest of the leadership team also knew in the same moment that employee was lying. And maybe it was because of an embarrassing voicemail from that employee's mother!! I thought quickly and remembered my basic rules of engagement:
What are your "basic rules of engagement" in these situations? Do you feel a need to upgrade them? Let me know! Reply. P.S. I deliberately did NOT mention whether they should be fired or not. That's part of actually thinking through what to do and NOT part of how someone should react immediately. Thoughts? LEADERSHIP IS LEARNED I've got 2 spots open on my roster - if you know someone who would benefit, would love to chat with them and see if there's a fit! Andrew Emailed forwarded to you? Want to read more?
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Andrew Elliot Stern Group
I empower individuals and organizations to come alive by creating and fulfilling on their vision for the future.
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